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Combatting the Bitter Ones with Resolve

August 16, 2010


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Surely we have all encountered these gravely dissatisfied people in our lifetimes.  You know the ones I mean.  Every other sentence is a complaint.  Good things rarely seem to happen in their lives.  They tend to be suck-ups and tattle-tales; always eager to make themselves look good while constantly pointing out the faults of others.  These types of people are generally bad listeners.  If you tell one of them that there was a recent death in your family, they straight-away begin to tell you how that’s just like what happened to them once.  No comforting words.  No real concern.  If you tell them a piece of good news, they immediately break into how something their own life just recently fell through or fell short.  No congratulations.  No celebration.  To put it simply,  these people can suck the joy out of almost any room and seem to expend great amounts of energy in effort to do just that.  They are nay-saying, side-ways talking,  day-dreading pains in the asses!

So how do we co-exist peacefully when working or living closely with these people? 

1. Ignore the crap!  We don’t have to ignore them in general, but when they begin to prattle on and on about how hard their life is or to complain about the same thing they always do-tune them out.  That sets a boundary with them and maybe they’ll pick up on it.  If they stop getting a response and eliciting our sympathies, maybe they’ll stop.

2. Stop sharing with them!  If we stop including them in our own experiences we also stop the disappointing, selfish, let-down of a response that we generally get from them.  Likewise, if we cut them out of our daily tidbits they may just get the point.  Again, we are attempting to set a boundary.

3. Break into song and dance!  Whenever the crab apple in your life goes into one of those ridiculous bad moods because life isn’t going their way at that moment…break into joyful song and dance.  This will irritate the crap out of them and disarm them.  If you don’t even acknowledge their tantrum and above all don’t let it change your day they will have failed in bullying the environment around them with their negative nancy shenanigans.

4. Above all else RESOLVE in your heart that you will no longer be a victim of the grumblers!  No one likes to be a victim anyway right?  Right!  The longer that we allow these sour apples to spoil our days, the longer they will!  They have endless energy in the area of day-wrecking and unless we resolve ourselves to be un-influenced, we will continue to dread every sight of them and every hour spent in a room with them.

I suppose we could also trip them every chance we get and make fools of them at every possible turn.  While that may bring us some or great satisfaction, I urge you to implement the four step process first.    This will function as a sort of “due process” for the bitter people.  If due process does not work however, and you find yourself still tortured by some relentless Grumpy McGee, by all means resort to this last/un-numbered method!

*What are your methods for dealing with these people?  Please leave your suggestions & comments!

*Also note if you would like to join the JUST SAY NO to NEGATIVE NANCIES alliance!

18 Comments leave one →
  1. WalkingThroughIt permalink
    August 16, 2010 7:34 pm

    Good advice & a humorous description of these “Negative Nancies”. My own advice would be not to deal with them at all & I would love to join the allegiance.

    • August 17, 2010 3:39 pm

      Thanks for the read and for the record, I’d rather not deal with them at all either but they are all over the place!!

  2. TJS permalink
    August 16, 2010 8:26 pm

    Good read, especially helpful for the workplace!

    • August 17, 2010 3:40 pm

      Thanks- I really appreciate that and hope it does help in the workplace (yours & mine)!

  3. godisgreen permalink
    August 16, 2010 8:32 pm

    What a hilarious approach to dealing with crabby people. I am going to incorporate that last un-numbered option in my workplace ASAP. Thanks for a good read!

    • August 17, 2010 3:41 pm

      I would strongly caution against using that last one, but if you insist! Thanks for the read!

  4. MoFoMe permalink
    August 17, 2010 12:28 am

    Great post. I would advise just telling bitter people that they’re winy and obnoxious. That would piss em off.

    • August 17, 2010 3:43 pm

      Good advice. Maybe I’ll give that a whirl! Thanks for taking the time to read!

  5. Michael permalink
    August 17, 2010 3:06 am

    Hahaha. I know a whole bunch of crab apples. I will pass this on to my friends. They’ll love it. I would very much like to join.

  6. karen75 permalink
    August 17, 2010 5:30 pm

    Lol. This is great. We do all know atleast one of these. I unfortunately know about 100. Great post!

    • August 17, 2010 5:35 pm

      Sorry to hear that you know 100 Grumpy Mcgees- that has to stink. Thanks for the kind words and maybe some of them will relocate soon!

  7. August 17, 2010 5:45 pm

    Well said!
    I like your methods of dealing with these ‘joy-suckers’… I typically try & ignore people like this. When that doesn’t work? I resort to sarcasm…and usually they are so self-absorbed that they don’t recognize it as being sarcasm, (and shamefully, I’m amused by this) – but at least they don’t bring me down with them. 😉

    • August 17, 2010 7:49 pm

      Thank you Victoria for your amusing comment! They don’t generally pick up on sarcasm do they? I like your term, “joy-suckers”. Thanks for the read!

  8. August 31, 2010 2:06 pm

    This made my morning. I recently started trying to change the negativity in my life and things like this remind me why I did it. Well written!

    • September 2, 2010 1:09 am

      Thank you for those very kind words!! I hope to keep up the good work in at least the eyes of a few!

  9. Felicia Edwards permalink
    September 2, 2010 12:06 am

    Now this post, I love! I have plenty of crab apples in my life, let me tell you. I plan on passing this one around the office and maybe some of the crab apples will read it and change their ignorant ways.

    • September 2, 2010 1:10 am

      Glad to be back in your good graces! I doubt they’ll even realize you’re indicating them but it’s worth a shot! Thanks!

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